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azriel wrote:I feel so proud of you & Im not even your mum !  You are going to have so much fun with all the girlie bits of life as your confidence grows. Its easy for me, I can wear trousers as well as skirts so it feels natural but you, you've only known trousers since a wee little lad  Men wear sarongs & kaftans in hot countries tho & that's taken for granted. I honestly don't care what people wear, if men want to wear skirts, ok. Just look nice & be comfortable in the clothes you do like. Its only fabric. Remember, one life, this aint a rehearsal

( I like wrapping necklaces round my wrists too, especially love beads )

malickfan wrote:Well done Eldy, proud of you it's the first step on a long journey, but you will soon get the hang of it, even as an occasional crossdresser myself I can't pretend to know much about female fashion trend/coordinating outfits etc and I definitely wouldn't pass with the beard (not that I am even attempting to) I do it mostly for a bit of fun with my girlfriend (women's fashion is so much more interesting then the various shades of black/grey that make up most of my clothes, oddly enough we are very similar sizes), being trans you are coming at this from a completely different approach and I only do this occasionally (and then only in private, absolutely no way I'd ever go out in public dressed like this), but I'm sure there's friends and family who would be willing to offer you more advice, it's not something you can just get the hang of overnight.

Here's a photo of me dressed up (pink jacket coat/red dress/black knee boots/leggings/shawl):

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(not pictured the makeup/nails I was also wearing, as I said I definitely don't pass with the beard, my girlfriend's mum thought it was hilarious, as did one of my friends (who identifies as a gender neutral lesbian), IIRC we bought these clothes the same day we looked round a WW2 museum, talk about a contrast...)

halfwise wrote:The all-body shaving routine must be hell.

Norc wrote:there is lazer-treatment... or.. one could not care.

Mrs Figg wrote:I think Norc's advice is cool, maybe you could keep your clothes neutral colours and classic but go crazy with the accessories to jazz things up until you feel confident with pattern and colour. if you have just had mens t-shirts and jeans all your life its hard to suddenly have the dressing up box at your disposal. If it was me I would personalize with an artistic bag, scarf, shoes and jools. Find things that express your artistic/feminine side, and then when you feel its time to go the Full Monty choose clothes to match your new image. Also the thing about women's clothes is there is too much stuff to choose from, like one season we are dressing like pirates and the next its hippy and the next its animal print. we have too much choice and it can be confusing, maybe look at some fashion mags to get ideas. As for hair, definitely go to a professional hairdresser who can advise about hair extensions or wigs, because a cheap bad wig is a no no, it wont be flattering.

Forest Shepherd wrote:Hey just wanted to stop by and say good luck with things and I hope you continue to grow into your own person throughout the coming years.

•  The bathub, really good idea. or a long warm shower. the hairs will soften. 
  
• do a body-scrub first, exfoliate! essential! removing the top layer of dead skin will prevent it from getting in the razor and reaching the hairs will be easier. a smoother shave. 
  
• use a lubricant while shaving such as shaving cream! the site i was looking at suggests soap, but soap is drying and often filled with perfume. Use a proper, mild shaving cream. i've found using shaving cream for the intimate areas works the best for me (the ones found where you buy sex toys! yes!)
  
• Do not pull and strecth the skin apart to get to certain areas. it is tempting, but avoid it. 
  
• this is important: shave in the directions of the hairs, not against! if the hair grows downwards on your leg, go downwards. i know all gilette commercials show it opposite, but it is a common myth. You get a closer shave, yes, but the risk of razor burn is a lot higher. 
  
• Use light, short strokes. don't put too much pressure on it.
  
• rinse the blade between strokes. don't use a blade clogged with hairs and cream and skin. if you are shaving a lot, change the blade too. I am guessing if you used one disposable for your whole body it would be pretty dull after a while. you want to use the sharpes of the sharpes. because...
  
• avoid shaving the same area over and over (sharp blade here is key).
  
• after. rinse with cold water og lay a cold washclothe over to close the pores. this is hell if you've just been in the shower, so my other option is:
  
• rinse away the cream and use an after shave. going back to the sex-shop shaving cream, they probably have an after shave in the same series . it stings, but it works really well in my opinion. basically evaporates as it is almost pure alcohol.
  
• for some time afterwards, be naked or as naked as you can. skip tight underwear, do bathrobe or loose pants, nothing tight. 
  
• when you are sure the pores are closed (if you still feel warm, they probably aren't). MOISTURIZE! 
  
• replace the razor.
  

https://www.healthline.com/health/beauty-skin-care/razor-burn wrote:

[size=38]Is razor burn the same thing as razor bumps?

Although the terms are used interchangeably, razor burn and razor bumps are generally considered different conditions. A razor burn is caused after you shave, and razor bumps are the result of shaved hairs growing back and becoming ingrown.
Ingrown hairs may look like raised bumps or even acne. This may occur when you remove hair through methods such as shaving, tweezing, or waxing. When the hair grows back, it curls into your skin instead of away from your skin.
Similar to razor burn, razor bumps can cause tenderness, inflammation, and a red rash.
Razor bumps are more common in people with curly hair, because the hair is more likely to curl back into the skin. A more severe version of razor bumps is known as pseudofolliculitis barbae. This condition occurs in up to 60 percent of African American men and in others with curly hair. In severe situations, this condition may require your doctor’s advice and treatment.
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[size=38]Outlook

In most cases, razor burn will clear up within a few days without treatment. Razor bumps may take longer to clear, and you should avoid shaving while bumps are present.
If the affected area appears to be infected, or doesn’t clear up within reasonable time frame, consult your doctor. Chronically occurring razor burn or razor bumps should also be treated by a doctor.
In some cases, your rash may not result from razor burn or razor bumps. If you suspect you have a rash unrelated to shaving or that a product you used to shave caused an allergic reaction, contact your doctor.[/size]

Eldy wrote:Thank you for the advice, Norc! ^_^ For starters I've been using the same shaving gel I use on my face which has worked well enough so far, but I might look into something else later. Exfoliation is very new to me but I've started trying to do that and my skin does feel a bit smoother already, and my most recent leg-shaving didn't result in nearly as much irritation. I will admit to having sometimes disregarded the advice to go with the grain of the hairs though. :V I was thinking about trying aftershave and with your advice will probably do that, and wait longer to moisturize than I'd been doing.

Pettytyrant101 wrote:as they are quite soft both in men and women- Norc

{{Dunno about that the hairs on my legs are like a hedgehogs arse }}

Pettytyrant101 wrote:{{No all the advice you gave seems perfectly sound to me Norc- just probably doesn't all apply to hairy arsed crabbit Scotshobbits with legs you could grate cheese on   }}}

Mrs Figg wrote:

Pettytyrant101 wrote:{{No all the advice you gave seems perfectly sound to me Norc- just probably doesn't all apply to hairy arsed crabbit Scotshobbits with legs you could grate cheese on   }}}

too much info

Pettytyrant101 wrote:{{No all the advice you gave seems perfectly sound to me Norc- just probably doesn't all apply to hairy arsed crabbit Scotshobbits with legs you could grate cheese on   }}}